I’m a queer, nonmonogamous, polyamorous, female-identifying person. Due to the nature of having multiple sexual relationships, I get tested for STIs (as opposed to an STD, an STI might never produce symptoms or develop into a disease) more often than most — a full panel every three months, unless there’s a new partner or a scare. Despite my diligence, I was recently diagnosed with HSV-2, a form of genital herpes. I’m far from
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There’s a whole lot of misinformation out there about squirting. Research is scant (hello, medical research gender bias!), and there’s still a lot of debate on the difference between squirting and female ejaculation. It’s super easy for some women to open the floodgates, while others just ... can’t. Fortunately as understanding – and interest – in the female body increases, people are taking a closer look at this hotly contested topic.
Some people fantasize about being tied up, while others get worked up for a babysitter role play. Still others prefer something a little more, ahem, extreme. In a new survey from the Sex Expo, 26% of respondents said they’d like to try erotic electrostimulation. (For context, 500 people over the age of 18 were included in the survey.)
Having a gang bang, or group sex, is a fairly standard fantasy. The idea of one person having sex with multiple people at the same time or one after another (consensually, of course) is basically the answer to the "one is fun, but two (or more) is better" scenario. In heteronormative speak, it translates to a vagina-haver being penetrated by multiple penis-havers. In a reverse gang bang, a penis-haver has sex with various vagina-havers.
February 28 is Metamour Day! Founded by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), the day is meant to foster positive relationships between you and your metamours (or, in non-monogamy speak, your partner’s partner, with whom you have no romantic connection) and acknowledge the unique role a meta is in your partners’ lives and tangentially (or directly) your own life.
When we think about stimulation, a lot of heteronormative people jump straight to penis-in-vagina intercourse. Sure, PIV sex can feel amazing, but there are lots of other non-penetrative, or “outercourse,” ways to experience sexual pleasure. Our bodies are a big ‘ole bundle of nerves waiting to be stimulated and send us over the edge. Think you know about external stimulation? Take our quiz to find out.
Takeaway: Couples’ privilege (or couples’ advantage) is a complicated subject. It’s also one of the most toxic issues I’ve run into as a solo polyamorous woman.
If you want to have hotter, more intense sex, add nipple play into your repertoire. Nipples are a wondrous erogenous zone with more than 800 nerve endings. A study published by the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2011, suggests that nipple stimulation travels to the brain in a similar way as sensations from the cervix, clitoris, and vagina.
Monogamy has been the default relationship model forever — the go-to gold standard, a so-called superior path to coupled bliss. But that may be changing.
There’s been an uptick in interest in consensual non-monogamy (CNM) with Google searches for the subject on the rise and shows like “You Me Her,” “Unicornland,” and “Polyamory: Married & Dating” hitting the airwaves. There’s even a lite version of CNM, dubbed “monogamish,” a term coined by sex columnist Dan Savage.
I never understood the appeal of younger men. Sure, I had a you-go-girl moment when once upon a time Demi Moore started dating Ashton Kutcher. But a significant difference in age never spoke to me ... until I deep-dived into that dating pool.
New year, new you — right? While many of us get caught up in resolutions around losing weight or saving money, it’s also an important time to take stock of your relationships. All of them. If you want to step up your relationship game, whether it’s with your spouse, co-worker, or family members, there are a few things you can do to take a good one to great.
Any relationship can be tough. Compound those challenges by multiple connections in a polyamorous dynamic, and you’ve got the makings for possible weirdness – especially around the holidays. As someone who practices polyamory, there are a lot of moving parts that go into tending to my various relationships on a daily basis, which can make celebrations a little more complicated.
It’s the merriest time of the season! We're all about sex toys here at Kinkly, and we've created a number of gift guides around them. But, well, sex toy gifts aren't a fit for everyone - and not everyone is into sex. So, here are 24 non-sex-toy gifts to give to your most sex-positive friends. Enjoy!
There’s such a huge emphasis on having sex last as long as possible. Like, light some candles, play some music and ease yourself into a sweet, sexy mood. Sometimes, though, you’re pressed for time. Just because time isn’t on your side doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make sex happen. A quickie may not be a leisurely romance-athon, but a quick bout of wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am sex can be super-hot (and super-doable!) — in a totally different way.