November 8 will mark the 29th anniversary of my mother’s death. I was 17 years old and a senior in high school when she lost her brief battle with lung cancer. While everyone else was getting helicopter-parented into higher education, I was left to free-fall into the world with minimal parental support.
Naked, under the hot Jamaican sun, I caught the gaze of a good-looking guy sitting naked in the hot tub. I straddled a nearby chaise lounge and positioned myself for the best view. While making sporadic eye contact, I aroused myself with my fingers slowly until I came, getting off on the public display and curiosity of passersby. Exhibitionism is the norm at Hedonism II, but this was a bold act even for open-minded me.
Considered the granddaddy of nudist resorts, Hedonism II has been in the b...
Like one in four people with vulvas, I have a daily self-love session. One of the easiest ways to connect with yourself is via masturbation. Not only is it healthy and normal to touch yourself, it feels pretty damn good. Women have double the number of nerve endings in their clits as men have in their penises, 8000 compared to 4000, says Jenny Block, author of O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm.
Vacation sex is the best. Whether you’re single or partnered, there’s something super-hot about getting away from it all and taking a time-out from your usual routine that makes road sex adventurous and exciting. You’re (hopefully) relaxed and miles away from the everyday stressors of life, so you're (again, hopefully) you’re more attuned to yourself and your partner (if such dynamics apply).
In the August issue of InStyle, Janelle Monáe echoes a sentiment I’ve been saying my entire adult life: “‘If my mother had let me have a vibrator at a young age to be in touch with my body more, I could have saved myself from so many poor decisions.”
Monogamy has been the default relationship model forever — the go-to gold standard, a so-called superior path to coupled bliss. But that may be changing.
There’s been an uptick in interest in consensual non-monogamy (CNM) with Google searches for the subject on the rise and shows like “You Me Her,” “Unicornland,” and “Polyamory: Married & Dating” hitting the airwaves. There’s even a lite version of CNM, dubbed “monogamish,” a term coined by sex columnist Dan Savage.
Nude travel isn’t anything new. Still, naked vacations, or “nacations,” are a growing niche, bringing in more than $440 million annually, says the American Association for Nude Recreation.
In many ways, sex should be better than ever in your 40s. You’re finally at home in your own skin, feeling confident and more sure of what you want between the sheets. But there’s often just one little problem … something we like to call “the age of dryness.”
Monogamy has been the default relationship model forever as the go-to, so-called superior path to coupled bliss. That said, there's been an uptick in interest in consensual non-monogamy (CNM) in recent years, with more and more people seeking (and wondering about this) on online dating profiles.
But what does it really mean, anyway — and is it just a cop-out to avoid commitment?
Backdoor entry is a deal-breaker for many women — a no-way, no-how, entirely off-limits scenario. Still, more than a third of women (36.3%) surveyed in a 2015 study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine reported having tried anal sex; 13.2% reported having had it within the past 12 months.
If you're looking for a game-changer when it comes to sex, look no further than the feminine care aisle of your local drugstore. That's where you'll find lubricant.
“There's no shortage of studies, both self-reported and single-blind, that demonstrate that most people find sex with store-bought lube to be more pleasurable and satisfying,” says Dr. Jill McDevitt, CalExotics’ resident sexologist.
We can all agree that orgasms are great. Still, I need to put out a disclaimer: We’ve all been sold this bill of goods that good sex – solo or partnered – means having a so-good-your-neighbors-hate-you orgasm.
Sex – whatever it looks like for you – can be a mind-blowingly awesome release of energy. But it doesn’t always have to involve an orgasm to be good. And if you can’t have or don’t want orgasms, that’s OK too. You do whatever feels good to you.
That said, orgasms are a fascinating physi...
Takeaway: Being sex-savvy won't protect you from sexual assault, but it might intensify the shame and sense that you should have known better.